10 Guys Share the Real Reasons Why They Want to be in Relationships

Compiled from AskReddit. My own answer? I want to be in a relationship simply because it feels awesome to have someone to care about, to share feelings and support with, and to share your life with. Having a girlfriend provides companionship that no other relationship can match.

Girls are awesome, that’s why.

“Also, she supports and encourages you. Helps you if you get down. Makes you feel sexy. Makes you happy because she’s sexy. She’s pretty and fun to cuddle and kiss. You can be closer with her than family and friends. It’s a special bond, and you two get to take on the world together.

Being in a relationship gives life a lot of zest and fulfillment.”

Having someone else to share my life with.

It’s great to have someone to share all of life’s experiences with, both good and bad.

Sex. (Just being honest – you know it’s true)

Can’t argue with that.

Someone to listen to, someone to listen to me, a warm body to snuggle at night.

Sometimes you just need someone there to talk and snuggle.

Find someone I’m absolutely crazy about who is also crazy about me.

“Not being lonely just isn’t enough for me. If I am going to be with someone, we’d better be crazy for each other. Life is too short and divorce is too expensive.”

The best part of having a significant other is the companionship.

“Not the sex, not the laughs, not the cuddles. Those are all amazing, yes, and important in a relationship as well, but having someone who supports me and will listen to my stupid and insane plans and having someone who will help me better myself, that is what a relationship is all about for me. Everything else is just cherries on top.”

It’s an intense friendship (probably lifelong) with a person I admire (I chose them after all) plus sex.

“I also don’t find sex outside of a relationship very interesting or satisfying so that drive gets sublimated and makes relationships seem more desirable.”

I want a life partner really.

“It’s about having someone to share the joy’s and sadness of live with, I mean there is a good reason why there are 2 pilots on a passenger plane :)”

I want a best friend that I have sex with.

Well said, my friend.

Having someone to share my hobbies with.

It’s always better to enjoy your leisure activities with a companion.

Four Dating Rules for the Professional World


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Dating Rules for the Professional WorldAlright friends, we’re adults now. We’ve graduated college. We have full time jobs. We’ve made it. Life is different now, and the way we dated in college just doesn’t work anymore. Our free time outside of work is now at a premium, and having that time wasted by a potential romantic partner who doesn’t have their shit together is probably the most frustrating thing we face in our quest for romance. Here are four dating rules for the professional world that will save you from accidentally offending others.

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16 Embarrassingly Honest Questions Men And Women Are Afraid To Ask Each Other (With Answers!)

Date Advice Guy:

Great insights here!

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

A while back, TC Heartthrob Chris Hudspeth and I asked each other some honest questions about the opposite sex, and got some real answers. But we are still very curious and nosy, so we thought, why not revisit our conversation? Here, 16 more #real questions that we’ve always been a little shy to ask each other.

Chris:I’ve asked this before but I always get vague, foggy, brushed off answers and I’d like a definitive one. Why do women go to the bathroom as a united faction like some sort of potty party regime type deal? And does anything noteworthy tend to happen in those ladies room meetings?

Chelsea: We go to the bathroom together for three reasons, usually:

1. To talk shit about the people we are currently with and/or discuss whether or not we’re going to let the guy who is flirting with us hit it.
2. To…

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12 Honest Reasons Why Your Relationship Didn’t Work Out

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

Have you ever ended a relationship that you thought was miserable only to have the other person look at you completely shocked? Maybe you were on the other end and, to you, everything seemed great, but it turns out your significant other was absolutely miserable. Here are 20 reasons why your relationship probably didn’t work out.

1. You Let Too Many Little Things Go

It’s the snowball effect where you’ve let little frustrations go for so long that one day he leaves an unwashed fork sitting on the sink and you flip the kitchen table over while screaming like a banshee. It’s not the fork, it’s months of little things that have led up to the emotional equivalent of a Papa Roach song.

2. You Never Want To Do Anything

Netflix dates are great, but it’s so frustrating to plan a big date for someone and their response be, “Nah.”…

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One Man’s Story of Love, Divorce and Relationships. A Must-Read


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ImageI didn’t write this. This was written by an anonymous OKCupid user and I was very moved when I read it. Please enjoy and share your thoughts.

My self-summary

I’m single, but I’m not looking for anyone to date right now. I’m interested in how people act on here. People are at their absolute worst on this site. It’s a true meat market. The people on it believe they are looking for love, but OKCupid isn’t selling love. It’s selling sex. Yes, you are looking for sex regardless of what you say or think.

I have found liars and cheaters on this site. My fiance was one of them. My fiance left me for a man she barely know but for whom OKCupid described as her “soul mate.” “Soul mate” is a laughable term. “Sex mate” is more like it. Everything we had built together and worked for was gone in an instant. Immediate gratification of her impulsive desire for the right man took precedence to any connection we had had. She has always been impulsive; but we had been carved from the same piece of wood, and it seemed impossible for that to change. I was absolutely heartbroken when she left me, believing it was something I had done, something wrong with me. It wasn’t until a full year had passed that I realized it wasn’t my fault; it was hers.

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How to Navigate Your Confusing, Undefined Modern Relationship


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No Labels“Let’s not put a label on things,” he says, after you’ve been seeing him for a couple of months already. “I definitely like you, and I want to keep seeing you, but I’m just not in a good place for anything ‘official’ right now. Let’s just enjoy what we are.”

You really like this guy. It’s been months (maybe even years) since you’ve found a guy that can get you this excited, and things have been going great. Yet despite what feels like a nearly perfect situation, you still have to have the awkward “so what is this?” conversation.

After some awkward, unproductive explanation of what you both expect from the relationship, you are still no closer to the answer you were hoping for, feeling confused and frustrated. You are chest-deep in what I call the “confusing, undefined modern relationship,” and it’s more common than you might think.

You don’t want things to end, but you also don’t want to get screwed over. Contrary to popular opinion, it can work. Here’s my advice for how to handle it, how to make sure you don’t get burned, and how to ensure the situation is of the most benefit to both of you.

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Seven Easy Steps to Losing Weight and Being More Attractive [Infographic]


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Hey there readers,

This was too good not to share. It’s a step by step guide to weight loss and healthy lifestyle change for those who are truly starting from zero and struggling to make healthy living a habit that sticks.

Earlier this year, I posted about making yourself more attractive in 2014. Adopting healthy eating habits is one of the best ways to do so this year. Go back and read that post, then consider if weight loss and healthy eating habits are the right first step for you in your quest to a better dating life.

I’ll be there with you. I’m actually hoping to drop about 20 pounds by summertime. Yes, your dating expert is a little overweight, believe it or not!

Read this infographic I discovered from a Reddit discussion last week. It really makes weight loss sound doable for even the most overweight person!

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