The Importance Of Being Inauthentic


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Check out this awesome presentation on how to use body language to make people like you. Very entertaining and insightful.


Four Dating Rules for the Professional World


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Dating Rules for the Professional WorldAlright friends, we’re adults now. We’ve graduated college. We have full time jobs. We’ve made it. Life is different now, and the way we dated in college just doesn’t work anymore. Our free time outside of work is now at a premium, and having that time wasted by a potential romantic partner who doesn’t have their shit together is probably the most frustrating thing we face in our quest for romance. Here are four dating rules for the professional world that will save you from accidentally offending others.

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16 Embarrassingly Honest Questions Men And Women Are Afraid To Ask Each Other (With Answers!)

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A while back, TC Heartthrob Chris Hudspeth and I asked each other some honest questions about the opposite sex, and got some real answers. But we are still very curious and nosy, so we thought, why not revisit our conversation? Here, 16 more #real questions that we’ve always been a little shy to ask each other.

Chris:I’ve asked this before but I always get vague, foggy, brushed off answers and I’d like a definitive one. Why do women go to the bathroom as a united faction like some sort of potty party regime type deal? And does anything noteworthy tend to happen in those ladies room meetings?

Chelsea: We go to the bathroom together for three reasons, usually:

1. To talk shit about the people we are currently with and/or discuss whether or not we’re going to let the guy who is flirting with us hit it.
2. To…

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12 Honest Reasons Why Your Relationship Didn’t Work Out

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Have you ever ended a relationship that you thought was miserable only to have the other person look at you completely shocked? Maybe you were on the other end and, to you, everything seemed great, but it turns out your significant other was absolutely miserable. Here are 20 reasons why your relationship probably didn’t work out.

1. You Let Too Many Little Things Go

It’s the snowball effect where you’ve let little frustrations go for so long that one day he leaves an unwashed fork sitting on the sink and you flip the kitchen table over while screaming like a banshee. It’s not the fork, it’s months of little things that have led up to the emotional equivalent of a Papa Roach song.

2. You Never Want To Do Anything

Netflix dates are great, but it’s so frustrating to plan a big date for someone and their response be…

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One Man’s Story of Love, Divorce and Relationships. A Must-Read


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ImageI didn’t write this. This was written by an anonymous OKCupid user and I was very moved when I read it. Please enjoy and share your thoughts.

My self-summary

I’m single, but I’m not looking for anyone to date right now. I’m interested in how people act on here. People are at their absolute worst on this site. It’s a true meat market. The people on it believe they are looking for love, but OKCupid isn’t selling love. It’s selling sex. Yes, you are looking for sex regardless of what you say or think.

I have found liars and cheaters on this site. My fiance was one of them. My fiance left me for a man she barely know but for whom OKCupid described as her “soul mate.” “Soul mate” is a laughable term. “Sex mate” is more like it. Everything we had built together and worked for was gone in an instant. Immediate gratification of her impulsive desire for the right man took precedence to any connection we had had. She has always been impulsive; but we had been carved from the same piece of wood, and it seemed impossible for that to change. I was absolutely heartbroken when she left me, believing it was something I had done, something wrong with me. It wasn’t until a full year had passed that I realized it wasn’t my fault; it was hers.

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How to Navigate Your Confusing, Undefined Modern Relationship


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No Labels“Let’s not put a label on things,” he says, after you’ve been seeing him for a couple of months already. “I definitely like you, and I want to keep seeing you, but I’m just not in a good place for anything ‘official’ right now. Let’s just enjoy what we are.”

You really like this guy. It’s been months (maybe even years) since you’ve found a guy that can get you this excited, and things have been going great. Yet despite what feels like a nearly perfect situation, you still have to have the awkward “so what is this?” conversation.

After some awkward, unproductive explanation of what you both expect from the relationship, you are still no closer to the answer you were hoping for, feeling confused and frustrated. You are chest-deep in what I call the “confusing, undefined modern relationship,” and it’s more common than you might think.

You don’t want things to end, but you also don’t want to get screwed over. Contrary to popular opinion, it can work. Here’s my advice for how to handle it, how to make sure you don’t get burned, and how to ensure the situation is of the most benefit to both of you.

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Seven Easy Steps to Losing Weight and Being More Attractive [Infographic]


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Hey there readers,

This was too good not to share. It’s a step by step guide to weight loss and healthy lifestyle change for those who are truly starting from zero and struggling to make healthy living a habit that sticks.

Earlier this year, I posted about making yourself more attractive in 2014. Adopting healthy eating habits is one of the best ways to do so this year. Go back and read that post, then consider if weight loss and healthy eating habits are the right first step for you in your quest to a better dating life.

I’ll be there with you. I’m actually hoping to drop about 20 pounds by summertime. Yes, your dating expert is a little overweight, believe it or not!

Read this infographic I discovered from a Reddit discussion last week. It really makes weight loss sound doable for even the most overweight person!

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Three Powerful Ways to Dissolve Your Dating Anxiety and Feel Great [Guest Post]


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Today’s post is written by Yasmine Ashuraey of Skilled Attraction, a date coaching and matchmaking firm. Read on for powerful methods of reducing anxiety and feeing more confident in your dating life!

Confident Relaxed WomanMutual love, trust, and enjoyment of one another’s company. These are some of the building blocks to amazing, fulfilling relationships. These building blocks extend to most intimate human relationships, including romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships.

Love and trust take time to build. Enjoyment can be discovered instantaneously. In fact, outside of our family relationships, we expect to enjoy our time with someone before we consider a more intimate relationship.

Think about it for a moment. Would you invite someone into your life as a friend or romantic partner if you did not enjoy his or her company? The answer is, probably not. You’re at the receiving end of this as well. Others won’t invite you into their lives if they don’t sense they can enjoy their time with you.

This is where anxiety is worth exploring in our lives. High levels of anxiety can, and often will, cripple our capacity to discover our romantic partner. It does so by masking our personality and therefore creating an artificial barrier between us and another personAnxiety blocks our capacity to have enjoyable experiences with another person.

What I want to help you accomplish in this article is the capacity to reduce your anxiety to minimal levels on a first date. Yes. Yes. And yes! It is certainly possible. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself time to incorporate these tips.

The end result is powerful. By saying goodbye to anxiety, you’ll be able to ease into conversation and connection, and therefore recognize if you enjoy another person’s company.

Are you ready?  Let’s get started.

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Date Advice Guy Now Offers 1 on 1 Date Coaching!


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Hello lovely reader!

First of all, thank you very much for reading. You rock.

As you know, my goal is simple: help you maximize your odds of finding and maintaining a successful relationship and avoid wasting time. I’ve been writing articles here for several months now, and the response has been amazing.

Thanks a ton. You’re a genius and now you’re going to have to deal with my questions all the time 🙂

– Jessica, North Carolina

Your answers are superior! I think you just crawled into my mind … I didn’t even know how to phrase what I was asking.

– Marisa, Texas

Today, recieves several thousand readers per week and many emails from readers who need help in their dating lives. I wish I could respond to them all! Unfortunately, people who really need the most help are no longer able to get the response they need. So, I’m now offering three solutions: Skype sessions, priority email, and free email!

1. Schedule a Skype phone session with me!

This is truly the best way to figure out exactly what’s holding you back in your dating life and identify a step by step plan to get what you want. In a 30 minute one-on-one coaching session, you can explain to me exactly what you want from your dating life and we can work together to find your answers!

Skype sessions are $40 for a 30 minute call, and we can work with your schedule to figure out a time that works best for you. Sign up for multiple sessions for a discount!

After you checkout, you’ll be directed to a page where you can schedule your appointment.

One 30 Minute Skype Session – $40 (No Discount)

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Three 30 Minute Skype Sessions – $108 (10% Discount)

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Want a free session? We can do that. All I ask is that you help me spread the word about my coaching. Simply get two people to sign up for a phone coaching session, and yours is free! All they need to do is enter your email address in the booking form after checkout. After two people say you referred them, we can schedule your free session!

2. Email me your question, and move it to the top of the list!

For $10 you can email me your question (keep it under 500 words, please) and move it to the top of the list. After you checkout you’ll be directed to a page where you can submit your question. Your question will be moved to the front of my email list and answered within 24 hours.

Email Question – Top Priority – $10

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Want a free jump to the front of the line? Same deal as with the phone sessions. All I ask is that you help me spread the word about my coaching. Simply get two people to sign up, and yours is free! All they need to do is enter your email address in the email form after checkout. After two people say you referred them, I’ll move your email to the front of the list for free!

3. Send me your question for free (below).

As always, you are free to email me any time with your question. Unfortunately, I can’t guarantee that I will respond to every question I receive this way.

I look forward to speaking with you and helping you get the results you want out of your dating life!


The Date Advice Guy

You can use this form to anonymously ask any question you would like. All I ask is for your first name (which you can make up, of course), and whether or not you are OK with being quoted elsewhere on the site. Your last name, email, and location are completely optional!

If you include your email, I will send an answer to your email address. If your question is interesting and you indicated that you are OK with being quoted, I may share your answer for everyone to see! (Don’t worry, I’ll only use the first name and the location that you give me. Everything else stays private.)