Check out this awesome presentation on how to use body language to make people like you. Very entertaining and insightful.
Alright friends, we’re adults now. We’ve graduated college. We have full time jobs. We’ve made it. Life is different now, and the way we dated in college just doesn’t work anymore. Our free time outside of work is now at a premium, and having that time wasted by a potential romantic partner who doesn’t have their shit together is probably the most frustrating thing we face in our quest for romance. Here are four dating rules for the professional world that will save you from accidentally offending others.
Maybe you’re both graduating from college and are pursuing jobs in different cities. Maybe one of you is in the military or has a job that requires relocation. Maybe you met online and don’t live in the same place. No matter the cause, most of us are faced with considering a long distance relationship at least once in our lives. It can be a very tough situation, especially if you’ve already been in a happy relationship for several months and weren’t expecting this distance. Do you decide to part on good terms and spare the trouble of a long distance relationship? Or do you decide to tough it out and make it work?
Maintaining a LDR is like running a marathon: it’s challenging, it takes extreme endurance, and can exhaust you mentally, emotionally, and physically if you aren’t prepared for it.
Fortunately, I have some insight that can help you decide if the relationship is worth pursuing and how to make it work if you do decide to tough it out. With adequate preparation and planning, it is very possible to make a LDR work for both of you.
Is it possible to predict that a seemingly good relationship or marriage is headed toward failure down the road? Is there a tell-tale sign that you can look for in the first year or two of a relationship that tells you that you’re headed for trouble?
In fact, is it very possible, and a certain study has identified a way to predict this long-term trouble with considerable accuracy.
Let me share the details with you. It could be possible that your new relationship is on a downward trend and needs some serious adjustments in order to save it.
So you may feel that you aren’t being approached as often as you deserve. You’re going out and being social, but you just don’t see why other women get “hit on” more than you do. I have good news for you. This situation is really much simpler than you think it is. The fact you must remember is that when men are considering making the first approach, they don’t know anything about you yet (other than what they gather from your appearance or maybe a mutual friend). This means that there are very few reasons why a man WON’T approach you. In fact, there are only four main reasons. If you find that you aren’t getting approached enough, I’m willing to bet that one of them applies to you. The first two are fairly obvious; the other two are a bit more subtle. I can explain all of them and offer a simple solution to each.
Dear Date Advice Guy,
Two years ago I ended things with the guy I thought I was going to marry and have been trying to jump back into the dating scene ever since. However, I think I forgot how to date after being in a 3 year relationship. My friends tell me that I try to jump ahead too soon to the future and the serious things when instead I just need to sit back, keep things light, flirty, and fun for a while – to just let whatever is going to happen, happen. Thus, I end up pushing/ scaring the guy away by trying to get too serious too fast. In addition, it doesn’t help seeing all your friends happily engaged, married, or having kids; instead it turns the heat up and then I boil it over the top apparently.
So please advise women, and me, on how to keep things fun and slow in the initial stages of dating – before the relationship – and when and how to progress into the relationship stage.
I see this pretty often. A guy likes a woman, but for any number of reasons, she has zero romantic interest in him. Of course there’s nothing wrong with this. A woman has absolutely no obligation to be nice to a guy or entertain his romantic advances just because he is attracted to her. And in fact, she shouldn’t!
But here’s the problem. I see far too many women who are simply unable to say no to a guy that she isn’t into. Although she doesn’t find him attractive; she just can’t find it in her heart to give him the cold-hearted truth. “I’m not attracted to you, and I never will be. Please stop trying to get my attention; it won’t get you anywhere.”
1. She is good for his EGO
2. She is good for his WELL-BEING
Yes, yes, of course there are countless more specific reasons that a man is attracted to a woman. What is attractive to one man is not always attractive to the next man, but every unique cause of attraction in a man can be categorized into one of these two main reasons.
I’ve seen women fall into disappointment time and time again with this type of guy. You’ve definitely met them and most likely dated one of them – he was probably fairly attractive, a good talker, fun to hang out with, and seemingly a great candidate for a relationship. He demonstrated great promise and potential. But once things got going well, he disappeared and moved on to the next girl, with little to no explanation. You find that most of the things about him that initially caught your interest were lies, carefully orchestrated to mislead you and betray your trust.