“I moved to a new area in January and haven’t made any guy friends I can talk to about this kind of stuff. Frankly, any guy friends I have made in the past year haven’t really been friends. They just wait in the dark until they jump out and confess their love for me or simply make a move.”
Wow, I can imagine the frustration. It can definitely be tough when you’re looking to make new friends and can’t trust people to not have hidden agendas.
When I read that, I realized that I’ve actually heard that comment many other times when casually talking to women about their dating and social lives. This issue certainly causes a lot of frustration in our personal relationships. One person expects a casual friendship, and the other person has another idea entirely. It can be very awkward when people have different expectations from the relationship.
Can men and women be just friends? Or like my reader has experienced, do most men simply present an air of friendship while waiting for the opportunity to “jump out and confess their love to her or make a move.”
Let’s explore this question from a guy’s perspective.