Check out this wonderful article by Lauren Martin on the different between “beautiful” and “hot.”
Alright friends, we’re adults now. We’ve graduated college. We have full time jobs. We’ve made it. Life is different now, and the way we dated in college just doesn’t work anymore. Our free time outside of work is now at a premium, and having that time wasted by a potential romantic partner who doesn’t have their shit together is probably the most frustrating thing we face in our quest for romance. Here are four dating rules for the professional world that will save you from accidentally offending others.
I didn’t write this. This was written by an anonymous OKCupid user and I was very moved when I read it. Please enjoy and share your thoughts.
I’m single, but I’m not looking for anyone to date right now. I’m interested in how people act on here. People are at their absolute worst on this site. It’s a true meat market. The people on it believe they are looking for love, but OKCupid isn’t selling love. It’s selling sex. Yes, you are looking for sex regardless of what you say or think.
I have found liars and cheaters on this site. My fiance was one of them. My fiance left me for a man she barely know but for whom OKCupid described as her “soul mate.” “Soul mate” is a laughable term. “Sex mate” is more like it. Everything we had built together and worked for was gone in an instant. Immediate gratification of her impulsive desire for the right man took precedence to any connection we had had. She has always been impulsive; but we had been carved from the same piece of wood, and it seemed impossible for that to change. I was absolutely heartbroken when she left me, believing it was something I had done, something wrong with me. It wasn’t until a full year had passed that I realized it wasn’t my fault; it was hers.
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As you know, our goal here is to help you find and maintain successful relationships. A big part of that is understanding what the opposite sex really finds attractive, and improving yourself to maximize your odds of catching their attention.
Too often I hear people ask “how can I get a boyfriend/girlfriend?”
This is a valid question, but it has a fundamental flaw. The question assumes that finding a significant other depends only on external factors, rather than on yourself.
A more appropriate question is “how can I become a person who is naturally attractive to the opposite sex?”
This question addresses the internal factors. It focuses on what we can do before we ever meet that new person to maximize our odds of success. This question is the first factor in the successful dating life equation.
Today we are going to answer that question.
To make matters worse – one (or both!) of you usually still has feelings for the other, and these feelings can seem impossible to get rid of. This leads to many nights of tears, jealousy, wishes of going back in time, and worst of all – lots of time wasted that you could have spent being happy (or meeting someone new!).
I’d say the most frustrating situation of all is to get trapped in the “on again, off again” loop for months and months on end. You know deep down that it isn’t going to work out in the long run, but you just can’t shake those lingering feelings that keep you coming back to try “one more time.”
Would it not be easier to just get over your ex and move on? Wouldn’t it be easier to save yourself the frustration, wasted feelings, and wasted time?
If you know that a relationship with this person is never going to work for you and you are ready to move on, here are some insights that will help you speed up the process.
I see this pretty often. A guy likes a woman, but for any number of reasons, she has zero romantic interest in him. Of course there’s nothing wrong with this. A woman has absolutely no obligation to be nice to a guy or entertain his romantic advances just because he is attracted to her. And in fact, she shouldn’t!
But here’s the problem. I see far too many women who are simply unable to say no to a guy that she isn’t into. Although she doesn’t find him attractive; she just can’t find it in her heart to give him the cold-hearted truth. “I’m not attracted to you, and I never will be. Please stop trying to get my attention; it won’t get you anywhere.”